"Don't be afraid! Make mistakes! Make BIG mistakes! The bigger the mistake, the more you learn!"
"Forget getting it right. Just move! Go for the essence of it!"
"Make it UP!"
The words vary, but the message is the same: go for it! Be messy! Come back and do it again. Just so long as you do it.
The messages all come from the various teachers at ODC, a beautiful dance facility and community here in San Francisco. You know what? I'm terrible. Terrible! And I love it.
This is what I love about dance: it's pure joy. It's not about getting it right. It's about using the full range of our physical and emotional expression. It's playful and it's sexy and it's silly, all rolled up together with a great beat. I love it.
It's not easy for me to make mistakes. I've always been the big sister, the straight A student. I've always been "good." But what I'm learning from dance and coaching and life: it's so freeing to mess up, to fall down, to get back up. It's freeing to drop the story that I have to be good. To have honest-to-goodness fun being "bad" at something.
In coaching, sometimes asking the "wrong" question is absolutely the "right" one because it elicits such a strong and truthful response. It's a good reminder that doing it wrong is part of how you get to doing it right.
What mistakes are you willing to make? In service of learning and growth: are you willing to fall? As I tell my yoga students: learning how to fall is at least as useful as learning how to balance. Especially if you can laugh at yourself when you get back up. Because even the falling can be fun when you do something you love.